Sexy Grandma? Sizzle over 60

There is a powerhouse of women ruling the world.  If you check the Forbes List of ”The 100 Most Powerful Women,” you would see that more than 60% of them are past 60 years young and still keep the sizzle!  Mature women are in positions of power and leadership.  But, does that include ruling the bedroom?

As a grandmother myself, let me dispel some myths about women over 50. Remember your own grandmother?  They looked old at forty!  Today, our lifespan is over 80 years. We work in the world, spend our own money and still manage to keep families together.  Is it possible that women in their middle and older years could be more sexually active, as well? As fertility declines and menopause approaches (or passes), good health can lead to good sex.

Myth #1: Women over fifty don’t like sex

The truth is you can realistically expect 10-15 years of a sexually active lifestyle after the age of 55.  At this point, the freedom to walk past the pregnancy prevention shelf proves its worth, especially when your healthy, willing and attractive man comes into play.

 

Myth #2: Women over fifty find menopause terrible and debilitating

Menopause can be worse than diet ice cream. Nobody looks forward to those captivating time in a woman’s life. However, it comes and goes and there is one less thing you have to buy from the “women section” of the pharmacy. You can came out the other side feeling stronger and surer than ever — and sexier.

The magic bullet for this period of life is to “just do it.” Even if you aren’t in the mood, the more you do it the more you’ll want to. Although sexual response may be slower after menopause, the ability to achieve orgasm is retained throughout life.

Licorice is considered one of the most effective and powerful natural remedies for menopause.  One teaspoon of powder is recommended as a wonderful estrogenic herb. For hot flashes, drink 1-2 cups of licorice tea. One of the best menopause cures is Vitamin E, a vitamin packed with the power of 8 antioxidants (400 to 800 IU daily).

Myth #3: Older women lose their vaginal sensitivity

For some women past the menopause, vaginal dryness can be an issue. Foreplay is one of the best lubricants of all, but once the vaginal lining becomes thin, it may not be enough.

For women who need extra moistening and lubrication during intercourse, a personal lubricant can reduce friction and irritation. One that includes herbs and nutrients can nourish tissues as well.

There are a lot of different natural oils that are good for natural lubricants, as well as being very good for vaginal health in general:

• Olive oil
• Jojoba
• Grapeseed oil
• Sweet almond oil
• Coconut oil
• Sea buckthorn oil

Another common household natural lubricant is egg whites. Or, plain yogurt can be used too. Obviously, you’re looking at the sort of unsweetened pro-biotic yogurt, as you’d use to treat a yeast infection.

 

While for many hormone changes can cause painful vaginal dryness, this is not always the case. Exercise always helps.

Myth #4: Emotional and psychological factors are responsible for a woman’s lack of interest in sex at midlife and beyond

Physical factors can play an even larger role. Women in very good or excellent health in middle age and later life are positively associated with sexual activity, quality of sexual life, and interest in sex.

If you’ve got aching joints or stiff hips and knees, intimacy can be physically demanding. A different position might help. Lying on your sides and the spoons position are both easier on the body, and you can use pillows to make yourselves more comfy.

If you take painkillers, perhaps you can change the time you take these, to give maximum relief during sex. And a warm shower either before or after can be very soothing for aches and pains.

If you can manage two flights of stairs without developing symptoms, you’re probably fit enough for sex. Besides, sex is a great workout, and a lot more interesting than climbing upstairs.

Myth #5: Women Over 50 Fear Change

That’s really funny, since virtually everything about us is changing.  Body parts are moving to different locations or vacating entirely.  Hair is now appearing in places it never was and disappearing from places it used to be. We could go on and on.  But, studies will indicate the happiest men and women in America are married couples who have sex frequently after age 60. Don’t tell the kids, but truth be told, many people our age say this age is the best and most rewarding sex they have ever had, even better than early adulthood.

Although some recommend and swear by such alternative therapies as ginkgo biloba or an amino acid called L-arginine for libido and erection problems, that’s not to say alternative medicine won’t work. When physical problems are not the root cause of a diminished sex life, many remedies exist to rekindle the flame of passion.

Strategies for Keeping the Spark Alive

• Treat your partner as if you’re dating
• Romance your spouse outside the bedroom
• Plan a date night
• Talk with your partner
• Listen to your partner
• Understand your partner’s sexual needs and desires
• Keep physically fit and attractive for your partner
• Maintain perspective on sex as life ebbs and flows
• Resolve any underlying conflicts as they will spillover to the bedroom
• Have fun and engage in foreplay, whether that’s kissing, sexual banter or anything else
• Be adventurous and creative in and outside the bedroom
• Exercise, preferably together
• Stop smoking and get your partner to quit
• Watch your weight and cholesterol

Going the Distance: Your Lifelong Sexuality

By the time they reach their late 40s or early 50s, women should be savvy enough to know that feeling sexy is a state of mind, and that a good man doesn’t need a partner to look perfect in lingerie in order for her to be desirable.

There are many reasons why women find sex after 60 to be extremely gratifying. They are able to continue to enjoy this part of their life regardless of their age. It is exciting to have the freedom to explore their sexuality. They also love the fact that their partner finds them interesting and wants to have sex with them. This can really help a person who is getting older to feel very good about themselves.

No matter how old we are, we never lose the hunger for a loving touch and emotional closeness: the starting point for satisfying sex. Enjoy the golden years that sex has to offer.

P.S.  It is worth the wait.  Delaying sex until after the vows has been proven to make happier marriages. Waiting helps the relationship form better communication processes, and these help improve long-term stability and relationship satisfaction, with usually better sex quality once married.  This is worth telling all the young people you know, so don’t believe the lie that testing compatibility by jumping in the sack with someone is a true test of time.

Grandma Barton is mother to Joe Barton (founder of Barton Publishing), grandmother to 6 grandkids and 28 step-grandkids, and over 3,000 Home Cures That Work members. She is a two-time breast cancer survivor with the help of Dr. Saunders and natural remedies. Grandma loves finding cures within the home to treat all sorts of ailments. With tips she’s learned on the farm and along the way, Grandma Barton brings a time-tested and trusted voice when it comes to home remedies. She really is an inspiration to us all.